Let's talk about the No-S*x Diaries comments

Okayyyyy… we need to talk about the NO- S*X Diaries🌶️ Diaries comments. 😂

If you followed along, you know the deal: my partner and I were DEEP in hotel high season, physically exhausted, working constantly, and spicy time 🌶️ basically went on vacation.

What fascinated me was the comments.

So many women: “THANK YOU.” “I feel seen.” “This is literally us.”

And then some of the men:

“Day 2 and I’m cheating.”

“If you have energy to play frisbee, you have energy for spicy time 🌶️.”

And likkkkkkeeeeeee…

THAT IS NOT HOW DESIRE WORKS. 😂

Having enough energy to throw a frisbee around does not mean your brain and body are ready for spicy time 🌶️.

Desire can also be responsive. Sometimes you don’t start out in the mood. You relax, stress comes down, you connect, there’s affection or stimulation… and THEN desire wakes up.

Which is literally how our diaries ended. We were exhausted when we got into that bath and I genuinely wasn’t sure anything would happen. We relaxed, connected, and eventually… oh hiiiii desire. 👋😂

But here’s the bigger question:

Why would you WANT spicy time 🌶️ with someone who isn’t in the mood?!

I want enthusiasm. Mutual pleasure. Someone who WANTS to be there — not someone participating because they feel like they owe me something.

A low-desire season isn’t automatically rejection. Sometimes LIFE is just life-ing. 😂

And that’s why I’m keeping the No Spicy Time 🌶️ Diaries around here and there.

Sometimes long-term relationships are spicy AF. Sometimes they’re cuddles, stress, kinky, bickering, puppies, frisbee and trying to keep each other sane.

We ain’t boning 24/7, people. 😂

Spicy time 🌶️ comes in seasons. And apparently, showing the not-so-spicy ones makes a lot of people feel a little less alone. ❤️ #initmacy #intimacymatters #pleasure #pleasureeducation #couplegoals