Dealing with jealousy

I used to think jealousy meant that something was wrong with me… That I wasn’t “secure enough” or “evolved enough” to handle certain situations.

Now I definitely see it as something to explore and not fix.

(Don’t get me wrong, it still doesn’t go away overnight 😅)

It’s been (and probably is a big one for a lot of people) one of the hardest truths but freeing lessons in opening up my relationship.

When I started studying sex and relationships, I learned that jealousy is often a mix of fear, insecurity and desire, but most importantly it’s about connection.

It shows up when something we value feels threatened. So instead of trying to get rid of it, I try to get curious about it.

Ask yourself:

✨what am I afraid of losing?
✨What do I need to feel safe right now?
✨Is this about my partners actions, or my own self worth?

These questions don’t make jealousy disappear, but they help transform it into something more honest. A doorway into deeper intimacy, communication and self understanding.

Because opening a relationship is effing hard! And it’s not always about “feeling jealous”, but more about learning how to listen when it speaks, and also learning how to talk about it.

If you’re reading this and feeling it right now, you’re gonna be ok ☺️

This clip is from my latest YouTube video about navigating jealousy in open relationships. Check it out! Link in my bio!

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