I'm going to say something that might be controversial among night owls: morning sex is, in my opinion, the absolute best sex. I know, I know. Some of you are already shaking your heads. You're thinking about bad breath, crusty eyes, and the desperate need for coffee before you can form a sentence. I hear you. But stay with me, because once you understand why morning sex is so good, you might just start setting your alarm a little earlier.

Your Body Is Literally Primed for It

Let's start with the biology, because this isn't just a matter of personal preference. When you wake up in the morning, your body is in a unique hormonal state. Testosterone levels — in both men and women — are at their highest first thing in the morning. That means your sex drive is naturally elevated before you even get out of bed.

On top of that, you've just had (hopefully) several hours of sleep, so your body is rested, your stress levels are lower than they'll be for the rest of the day, and you haven't yet started the mental gymnastics of work emails, to-do lists, and daily responsibilities. In other words, your brain hasn't had a chance to get in the way yet. And let's be honest — the brain getting in the way is one of the biggest obstacles to good sex for a lot of people.

It Sets the Tone for Your Entire Day

Have you ever noticed how different you feel on days when you've had a great intimate connection with your partner in the morning? There's a warmth that carries through the whole day. You're more patient, more affectionate, more grounded. And there's actual science behind this: orgasms release oxytocin and endorphins, which are basically your body's natural mood enhancers.

Morning sex isn't just physically satisfying — it's a way of starting your day by choosing connection over the chaos that's waiting for you outside the bedroom.

Starting your day with intimacy instead of immediately reaching for your phone or stressing about your schedule is a radical act of prioritizing your relationship. It says, "Before the world gets its hands on us, let's have this moment together." And that kind of intentionality is what keeps relationships strong.

It Feels More Raw and Authentic

There's something about the morning that strips away all the performance aspects of sex. You're not dressed up, you're not in "date night" mode, you're not trying to set a scene. You're just two people in bed, half-awake, reaching for each other. There's an intimacy in that vulnerability that's hard to replicate at any other time of day.

I think nighttime sex often comes with more pressure. You feel like it has to be a whole production — the right lighting, the right mood, enough energy after a long day. Morning sex skips all of that. It's spontaneous, unpretentious, and often surprisingly tender. Some of the most connected moments I've had with my partner have been those slow, lazy morning encounters where neither of us is trying to impress the other.

How to Make It Work (Even If You Hate Mornings)

Okay, practical tips. Because I know the biggest objection is "I'm not functional until my third cup of coffee." Fair. Here's what's worked for us:

A Love Letter to Slow Mornings

At the end of the day — or rather, at the start of it — morning sex is really about slowing down. It's about resisting the urge to jump immediately into productivity mode and instead savoring the person lying next to you. In a world that constantly demands our attention and energy, choosing to start your day with pleasure and connection is a small but powerful rebellion.

Whether you're a devout morning sex enthusiast or you've never even considered it, I'd encourage you to give it a try this weekend. Set your alarm fifteen minutes early, keep those mints handy, and see what happens. You might just discover your new favorite way to wake up.

For even more on why I'm such a morning sex advocate, watch the full video below. I get into the fun details.