My Sexy Reads

This is a book I think every man should read — but honestly, as a woman, I learned so much about myself too. It's easily digestible, incredibly descriptive, and refreshingly clear when it comes to pleasure. If you or your partner are struggling with oral sex or just want to be more attentive, I can't recommend this enough. It completely changed how I think about intimacy.

Everything vanilla people and their kinky partners need to know to communicate, explore, and connect. A sex therapist's playful, affirming guide to navigating desire differences — winner of the AASECT Sexuality Professionals Book Award.

Clinical practice with kinky clients. A comprehensive, award-winning guide for therapists and anyone wanting to understand how mental health care can be kink-affirming rather than just kink-aware.

A man's guide to responsible viewing pleasure. Accessible, funny, and evidence-based — this book offers a nonjudgmental way to understand and use pornography without the shame and anxiety.

The definitive practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love. Often called “the poly bible,” with over 200,000 copies sold since 1997.

How to boost your sex IQ and own your pleasure. From the host of the #1 sexuality podcast Sex with Emily, a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex — regardless of gender or orientation.

Migrant sex workers fighting for justice. A landmark primer on migration, sex work, and policing that exposes the harms of criminalization in the name of “anti-trafficking” and centers the voices of those most affected.

Inside Asia's premier erotic playground. An expansive yet nuanced ethnographic study of diverse sex markets and their moral economies — awarded an Honorable Mention by the American Society of Criminology.

How to be a woman in the age of mortification. A candid, unflinching look at shame, stigma, and what it means to live as a woman when the world is determined to judge you.

The vulva and the vagina — separating the myth from the medicine. A New York Times bestseller and the definitive guide to vaginal and vulvar health from the world's most outspoken gynecologist.

A history of erotic encounters. A rich narrative of the powerful erotic pull the East has always had for the West — exploring the intimate connection between sex, power, and colonialism from Marco Polo to modern-day Thailand.