Relationship Values Alignment Calculator
A fun, honest way to see where you and your partner connect on the big stuff—and where you might need to talk things through.
How It Works
This calculator breaks down 25 core relationship categories. You’ll rate how important each area is to you on a scale of 1 to 10. Then, pass the device to your partner so they can do the same. We’ll show you where your values align beautifully, and where you might want to start some gentle conversations.
Note: A "10" means "This is absolutely non-negotiable and defines my life." A "1" means "I really couldn't care less."
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens if we have a low compatibility score?
A low score simply means you have different priorities in certain areas. It doesn't mean your relationship is doomed! It's a wonderful opportunity to understand each other better. Use the discussion prompts to talk through your differences gracefully.
Is 100% alignment necessary for a healthy relationship?
Absolutely not. While it's helpful to be aligned on dealbreakers (like having kids or financial security), differences in lifestyle, hobbies, and socialization can actually create a beautiful balance in a relationship. The key is mutual respect for those differences.
Can our core values change over time?
Yes! As you grow, experience new things, and navigate different life stages, your priorities will naturally shift. We recommend retaking this calculator every year or so as a fun relationship check-in.