Relationship Health Check
A judgment-free assessment to see what's thriving and what needs some love.
Answer the following 30 questions honestly. Don't overthink it — go with your gut feeling.
Take the assessment yourself to reflect on the relationship.
Your Results
Areas of Strength
Areas for Growth
Actionable Tips
The 6 Dimensions of a Relationship
A thriving relationship isn't just about one thing working perfectly; it's about a balance across multiple areas of connection. We break relationship health down into six core dimensions. Understanding these can help you figure out exactly where you shine and where you might need to put in a little extra work.
Communication
The foundation of everything. It's not just about talking, but actively listening, resolving conflict without cruelty, and feeling safe enough to express your true needs and feelings.
Trust & Safety
Feeling secure that your partner has your back. This includes emotional reliability, honesty, respecting boundaries, and creating a space where vulnerability is welcomed.
Intimacy & Connection
The closeness you share. This encompasses both emotional intimacy (feeling seen and understood) and physical connection, ensuring both partners feel desired and satisfied.
Respect & Appreciation
Valuing each other as individuals. It's about acknowledging efforts, showing gratitude, supporting each other's goals, and treating each other with kindness even when frustrated.
Fun & Adventure
The joy and playfulness in your bond. Sharing laughter, trying new things together, maintaining inside jokes, and not taking yourselves too seriously all the time.
Growth & Alignment
Moving in the same direction. Supporting each other's personal evolution while ensuring your core values, future goals, and commitment to the relationship remain aligned.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is a relationship health check?
A relationship health check is a tool to assess the strengths and areas for growth in your partnership across key dimensions like communication, trust, intimacy, respect, fun, and growth.
How often should you do a relationship check-in?
Many couples find it helpful to do a regular check-in monthly or quarterly. It's a great way to stay connected, address minor issues before they grow, and celebrate what's working well.
What are the signs of a healthy relationship?
Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, open and honest communication, deep trust, shared fun, emotional and physical intimacy, and a willingness to grow both individually and together.
Can we take this test as a couple?
Yes! This tool includes a Couples Mode. Both partners can answer the questions separately, and you can compare your results to see where your perspectives align and where they differ.
Is this a substitute for couples therapy?
No, this is an educational tool designed for self-reflection and sparking conversations. It is not a diagnostic tool or a substitute for professional couples therapy or counseling.
Disclaimer: This tool is designed for educational purposes and self-reflection. It is not a diagnostic tool and is not a substitute for professional couples therapy, counseling, or medical advice.